Life Update – Do I Regret My Choice Not Going To University Half A Year On?

So, since my last proper life update in January and it being well over 3 months, I figured an update on everything over the last few months wouldn’t hurt!

A few things have happened since my last update, a few of these include getting a job promotion, so I am now a certified Medicines Counter Assistant in the pharmacy, and I am now starting Dispensary trainingMe and my boyfriend reached our 2 year anniversary of being together, so we recently went to Manchester to celebrate reaching the milestone. And, I’m going to Japan in July!

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I wrote a blog post back in January about choosing not to go to university and why I chose not to go, and I wanted to write an update on this. I will link the blog post below in case you wanted to read it first to catch up:

Life Advice: Higher Education – Ashamed For Not Going to University? Hidden Disabilities?

To answer my question in my blog title in short, the answer is no. I don’t regret my choice about not going to university and now that people are almost finishing the year  at uni for summer, I still think I’ve made the right decision for myself and if I was to make the choice again, I still wouldn’t opt to go to uni. I have never felt a day of stress like I did when I was doing A-Levels and I feel like I’ve recovered from all of the mental and physical trauma I went through just to get some grades on a piece of paper. I don’t regret my choice of doing A-Levels whatsoever, because it means I have something to offer when it comes to future jobs like the pharmacy job I’m currently undertaking.

Recently, a lot of my friends and people I know have come to me asking for advice relating to the choice I made to not go to university. I won’t disclose anyone’s name for privacy reasons, but people have confided in me about whether university is right for them. I am in no way trying to advertise that not going to university is the best way forward, because I genuinely believe that university can bring a lot of amazing opportunities and I just wanted to put that out there in case people are getting the wrong idea. My brother is out in Japan studying at university for 4 years and I have every faith in him that he’ll succeed with whatever he chooses to do in the future.

Only you know yourself deep down whether university is right for you, and no one can make this choice for you but yourself!

The one thing that I hated about school is how much they pressured students to go onto university and that there is no other way to be successful unless you go to university. Because we’ve been brainwashed since we were young that if you didn’t go to university, you aren’t going to be successful, you get people constantly telling you that you’ll be on a low wage and you won’t be half as successful with those who have a degree next to their name and they will always be picked over you at a job interview. I think this is a load of rubbish to be completely honest.

You can be successful if you work hard and always aim higher.

You can go out in the world and get some work experience and continually add to your CV and soon enough you will be picked over those with degrees because you have more experience (obviously job-dependent) and I know plenty of people who have gone out to try to get a job, but because of their lack of experience, they have been turned down.

The most successful and wealthiest people that are always seen in the papers and on TV tend to be those who have never been to university or even finished college.

Your life is what you make it and a degree certainly doesn’t dictate how successful you will be.

I know plenty of people who have gone to university and graduated who are now working the same jobs as those people who didn’t go to university.

If you did or currently do go to university and you end up doing something with your degree, then I am so pleased for you because in today’s world it is becoming increasingly difficult to get a job, even with a degree.

I think my biggest pet hate is when people look at you differently just because you chose to go into work and not go onto university. I think since everyone has left for university I’ve truly realised those people who are worth my time and those who aren’t. I’m not saying that everyone who has gone to university has given me the same attitude, but some people I feel look down on me for my decision to go into work instead. I’ve seen so many old acquaintances and parents of those old acquaintances who always say the same thing to me

“I thought you would have gone to university!”

I think everyone had this expectation of me because I was known as the girl who studied every minute and hour of the day. The one who was academic and never failed to hand in a piece of work.

I may have appeared academic, but I was never happy.

Every waking moment having to think about going to school, coming home, having dinner than revising all night and repeating this every single day felt like the biggest drain on my soul. There were days I wanted to tear my hair out, days I cried myself to sleep, days I just wanted to quit school. Education made me so unhappy to the point I needed counselling, so was it worth going to university to put myself through more unnecessary trauma?

I can happily say that I absolutely made the right choice for myself to not go to university. I genuinely am the happiest I have been in a very long time! I literally feel so free, and I have not felt like that since I was a kid.

Choosing to not go to university

I won’t lie, when I first initially made the decision to not go to university and I slowly started to announce it those closest to me first, it was the most scary experience. Everything felt so surreal and I felt like I had just made the worst decision of my life. I have spent most of my schooling life being told that I have to go to university to make it in life and the decision to go against the norm made me feel so uneasy about what was going to happen in the future.

I’ll say this again and will always say this, but not going to university isn’t the end of the world, it’s the beginning of a new chapter in your life!

7 months on, I literally feel like I’m living the dream…

I don’t have to stay locked up in my room revising for hours. Instead I have my life together. I got my job in the pharmacy in December and 4 months on I received a promotion, which normally would take a year to be fully trained, as I only work part-time, and now I’m onto my next bit of training (Dispensary Assistant) to climb up the pharmacy ladder. So, I’m still utilising my Science A-Levels that I acquired in college, so going to college wasn’t a waste of time because it is incredibly useful knowledge to have when working in healthcare.

I get to help my parents do a lot of promotion work for their business and use my creative side to create posters and flyers, whilst also being a social media manager for them, which I thoroughly enjoy doing in my spare time.

I also got to start this blog up and if people know me personally, I love to write essays like there is no tomorrow when I reply to their texts, and I just thought starting a blog would be a fantastic way to expand my creative writing skills. I also take pictures of absolutely everything and I knew some day the photos would come in handy, because I can write things in detail with photos, such as my travel blog posts.

Choosing to not go to university

I will always believe that if you work hard you can achieve whatever you set out to achieve, it doesn’t matter how long it takes as long as you stay motivated throughout. A degree isn’t a measure of success, it’s just a stepping stone into a job. Success comes from hard work and persistence.

I love being in work now because I am actually praised for doing a good job and I am pushed harder to achieve my potential. Back in school, I was always told I couldn’t get certain grades, I couldn’t get into my chosen course, I couldn’t go to the university of my choice and it was always “Jenny you can’t…”. I was always placed below those who were in the Oxbridge group and constantly compared with others based on my intelligence. Being in my workplace I just get positive comments from customers who really appreciate my knowledge and it’s just so strange to me when I get pulled aside by my manager and being told how impressed he is with the level of knowledge I have acquired over a short amount of time. I never used to get this at all in school, especially the further along I went in my education I found that I had more negative encounters with my course supervisors.

So, the next time you hear someone say they aren’t going to university, just be supportive. Don’t question their choice, just be kind and have belief in them that they can make something of themselves.

If you have gone through a similar experience, I’d love to know your thoughts! If you wanted to talk about any of this content in private, please feel free to email me on confessionsofonlineshopaholic@gmail.com or contact me on my social media below.

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